By Melvin Twigg Mason
Published in February of 2016 by Howard Books, a subsidiary of Simon & Schuster, Inc., The Wait: A Powerful Practice For Finding the Love Of Your Life And the Life You Love is written by DeVon Franklin and Meagan Good (with Tim Vandehey.)
Meagan is known and remembered for her acting contributions (Stomp The Yard, Think Like A Man, and Jumping The Broom), whereas her now-husband DeVon is professionally recognized behind-the-scenes as a producer & studio Exec (Miracles From Heaven, Breakthrough, and Hancock.)
Their book seeks to slow down an antsy generation that’s been looking for love in all the wrong ways and places, and to redirect readers toward the loftier goal of self-discovery and pre-marital self-improvement.
The Wait, which is their name for the process described in the book, is meant to reveal the romantic and personal benefits of celibacy as exemplified in the lives of the authors. To hear DeVon and Meagan tell their story, it wasn’t magic that brought them together, it was divine. It wasn’t discovering bedroom bliss that made them right for each other, but the discovery of their individual uniqueness. And they say it definitely isn’t sex or the pursuit of sexual chemistry that will do the same for you, but rather the pursuit of becoming all you’re meant to be.
Though it starts slow and is somewhat repetitive at first, the principles of The Wait are on point and useful to any age bracket. The visual layout of each chapter may feel a little choppy, but they are chock full of personal examples from DeVon and Meagan’s pre-marital relationship, as well as helpful practices to pursue, and pitfalls to avoid while you wait on Mister/Miss Right.
I love the way that, several times throughout the book, they refer to The Wait’s process as being able to draw out your partner-in-purpose. The Wait operates on a straightforward premise: “you put in the work to become your best self, and God will put you into your best life.” The authors say not only is knowing and growing yourself an important thing to do while you wait, but it’s also the necessary first component of preparation for your future significant other!
Meagan and DeVon always seek to be encouraging throughout their writing, regularly noting for example that though you may fall or get distracted from the process, get right back up and continue “waiting.” They’ve even put together a “Prayer Against Lust,” which is very good, addressing the repetitive nature of sexual temptation and one’s ability (through God) to take authority over it.
All things considered, if you’re tired of the singles’ scene (running the same game but not getting different results) and it’s just not working for you, read The Wait. If you’re skeptical about whether celibacy is effective, or even possible, read The Wait. Even if you’re only looking for the inside scoop on how Meagan and DeVon’s relationship developed, I recommend you read The Wait. I dare you!