They are Not Your Savior

By Dwayne Williams

We go about our days looking for validation to define who we are as a person. We sometimes look to others and events to define ourselves. That proud Browns fan that wears his jersey after a game, that proud person who sports a black lives matter tee shirt, or that proud parent who displays on their license plate holder that their child is an honor student, all validate others by a
display of pride. We look to others, events, and social causes to validate ourselves. We all do it.

People go about their lives feeling the support they receive or give has somehow made the difference in other people’s lives. These feelings are not wrong. Rightfully so, one should take pride in the accomplishments of others if they had a hand in it. What about us? Do others feel they have been institutional in our success and do we look to others to help us feel better about ourselves? Others may help, but it’s important to know, “they are not your Savior.”

A Savior is defined as: a person who saves someone or something (especially a country or cause) from danger, and who is regarded with the veneration, great respect, and reverence of a religious figure.

The problem occurs when we unknowingly elevate people to that position in our lives. We can come to rely on others to save us, many times from ourselves. It is worth mentioning that the flip
side of this is the savior complex. According to the PeopleSkillsDecoded.com, the savior complex can be best defined as “A psychological construct which makes a person feel the need
to save other people. This person has a strong tendency to seek people who desperately need help and to assist them, often sacrificing their own needs for these people.”

Certainly, trusting in God is the basic belief of all who acknowledge the existence of a supreme being. Additionally, it is not uncommon to hope others will do right by us; however, despite our hopes it is important to acknowledge, NO ONE PERSON can truly save you better than your own efforts. Many people struggle in relationships because they have come to the
realization that their partner does not live up to these expectations.

People are people and we all have our limitations. When you find yourself disappointed in someone remember, “They are not your Savior.” Instead, focus on self-improvement and self-fulfillment and if you’re a person of God like me, first confide in God through Jesus Christ who is the one and true Savior.